How TERF works

Pay attention, if you’re not already neck-deep in the gender wars of online feminism. TERF is an acronym for “Trans Exclusive Radical Feminist” that its users claim is applied purely descriptively. Critics of the term point out that it is not used neutrally, but in all cases pejoratively: TERF is a curse word used solely against women, a version of “bitch” that liberals can feel OK saying. “TERFs” are charged with inciting and inflicting violence against transgender people, despite the fact that violence against transgender people, like all violence, is overwhelmingly committed by men and not by feminists of any stripe.

The definition of TERF is extraordinarily loose: what one is supposed to be excluding trans peoplefrom is never identified. To state that male and female bodies exist can be enough to win the TERF label; to state that the division of sex is the foundation of sexual oppression is more than sufficient. (If your observations of reality have led you to believe that sexual dimorphism in humans is both real and socially relevant, you may be confused to learn that acknowledging this is now deemed evidence of bigotry in some quarters.)  It is also a highly toxic definition to apply to someone, both because of the intimation of violence, and because there is a hefty taboo within the left at large against “excluding” anyone.

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chinesewomenunited:

This isn’t exclusively about Chinese women, but I think it’s pretty darn relevant to some of the issues discussed/to be discussed on this blog.

And, even though the examples used in this video were about Japanese women—it’s not a surprise that East Asians are treated as a single entity, without recognition of the wonderful diversity within each separate culture. Before we even get to the fact that these men care little to nothing about who you are as a person—they care little to nothing about your culture and heritage.

The number of times I’ve seen people say, “but I love Asians/Asian culture!” makes me want to high five them in the face with a chair. There is no love there, only misconceptions and fetishization and Western-centric idea of what this single entity called “Asia” is supposed to be.

(And I could go on about geek racism and the fetishization of East Asians because of media and popular culture…thank you otakus and weeaboos…..)

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tumblrbot:
WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER WHEN YOU ARE IN A BAD MOOD?

chickdeney:

KINK SHAMING


rightbetweenthemoonandmars:

unpretty-princess:

its-tuesday-again:

WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH STRAIGHT BOYS

Omfg

I am not even halfway through this video and I am crying from laughter

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nevermetawiseman:
I visited wellington last week and picked up all the last of the cute bruiser issues I could find in matchbox and I am so daMN ESTATIC THAT YOU GUYS ARE MAKING MORE, reading cute bruiser makes me feel so empowered and just all over happy that people like those who contribute do exist. Thank you infinitely <3


Happy Ending Override

cutebruiser:

We started Issue 6 of Cute Bruiser by saying This is the last issue, and finished with the line Goodbye forever.

I’m here to tell you that that was a big lie. We miss making Cute Bruiser and Zinefest is a few months away and we’re making another one okay. We’re making Issue 7 and we want it to be the biggest and best Issue of Cute Bruiser ever and we need you to help us out with that.
We accept visual art, poetry and prose, essays, articles and opinion pieces. We accept collage and fan art and movie screen caps.
Cute Bruiser is a feminist zine but ‘feminism’ is a pretty broad theme. For this issue we’re narrowing things down (very slightly)(hardly at all) with the theme ‘I’m a Feminist - Now What?' Let's focus on what it means to call ourselves feminists, on the ways that we can work to make real and meaningful change, whether that means saying 'sorry' less often and calling out sexist behaviour, lobbying for policy change or making plans for the revolution.

If you would like to contribute to Issue 7, send us an Ask or email: cutebruiserzine@gmail.com. The deadline for submissions is SEPTEMBER 30TH but we highly recommend you get in touch before then to let us know what you’re planning on submitting!

rapeculturerealities:

crusherccme:

found this gem in the 1996 Cornell Women’s Handbook. it’s what to say when a guy tries to get out of using a condom

… it upsets me that we live in a world where men feeling entitled to put women at risk and disregard their wishes is so common that we need multiple kinds of advice on how to have these conversations. this is a rape culture issue, it’s an issue of consent being challenged and ignored and argued instead of respected and it’s an issue of men feeling entitled to use women’s bodies as they want without regard for the consequences to those women because they don’t see women as people worthy of respect and care.

rapeculturerealities:

crusherccme:

found this gem in the 1996 Cornell Women’s Handbook. it’s what to say when a guy tries to get out of using a condom

… it upsets me that we live in a world where men feeling entitled to put women at risk and disregard their wishes is so common that we need multiple kinds of advice on how to have these conversations. this is a rape culture issue, it’s an issue of consent being challenged and ignored and argued instead of respected and it’s an issue of men feeling entitled to use women’s bodies as they want without regard for the consequences to those women because they don’t see women as people worthy of respect and care.

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dear-white-people:

YOU DEMANDED IT! Check out the full-length official trailer for Dear White People before it hits theaters this weekend. 

#HITSHARE #TURNUP #BELIEVETHEHYPE

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At a lecture I was giving in a large West Coast university in the Spring of 2008, the female students talked extensively about how much they preferred to have a completely waxed pubic area as it made them feel “clean,” “hot” and “well groomed.” As they excitedly insisted that they themselves chose to have a Brazilian wax, one student let slip that her boyfriend had complained when she decided to give up on waxing. Then there was silence. I asked the student to say more about her boyfriend’s preferences and how she felt about his criticism. As she started to speak other students joined in, only now the conversation took a very different turn. The excitement in the room gave way to a subdued discussion on how some boyfriends had even refused to have sex with non-waxed girlfriends as they “looked gross.” One student told the group how her boyfriend bought her a waxing kit for Valentine’s Day, while yet another sent out an email to his friends joking about his girlfriend’s “hairy beaver.” No, she did not break up with him, she got waxed instead.

Two weeks after the waxing discussion, I was at an East Coast Ivy League school where some female students became increasingly angry. They accused me of denying them free choice in their embracing of our hypersexualized porn culture, and being the next generation’s elite women, this idea was especially repugnant because they saw no limits or constraints on them as women. Literally two minutes later, one of the students made a joke about the “trick” that many of them employ as a way to avoid hookup sex. What is this trick? These women purposely don’t shave or wax as they are getting ready to go out that night so they will feel too embarrassed to participate in hookup sex. As she spoke, I watched as others nodded their heads in agreement. When I asked why they couldn’t just say no to sex, they informed me that once you have a few drinks in you, and are at a party or a bar, it is too hard to say no. I was speechless, not least because they had just been arguing that I had denied them agency in my discussion of porn culture, and yet they saw no contradiction in telling me that they didn’t have the agency to say no to sex. The next day I flew to Utah to give a lecture in a small college, which although not a religious college, had a good percentage of Mormons and Catholics. I told them about the lecture the previous night and asked them if they knew what the trick was. It turns out that trick is everywhere, including Utah.

I tell this story because, on many levels, it neatly captures how the porn culture is affecting young women’s lives. The reality is that women don’t need to look at porn to be profoundly affected by it because images, representations, and messages of porn are now delivered to women via pop culture. Women today are still not major consumers of hard-core porn; they are, however, whether they know it or not, internalizing porn ideology, an ideology that often masquerades as advice on how to be hot, rebellious, and cool in order to attract (and hopefully keep) a man. An excellent example is genital waxing, which first became popular in porn (not least because it makes the women look pre-pubescent) and then filtered down into women’s media such as Cosmopolitan, a magazine that regularly features stories and tips on what “grooming” methods women should adopt to attract a man. Sex and the City, that hugely successful show with an almost cult following, also used waxing as a storyline. For instance, in the movie, Miranda is chastised by Samantha for “letting herself go” by having pubic hair.

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Visible or Invisible: Growing up Female in a Porn Culture

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lesbipocalypse:

radical/2nd wave/lesbian feminism has literally turned around how I view women. it’s enabled so much love in my heart for other women, and opened my eyes to their struggles that I don’t share, instead of turning me against them. Liberal/mainstream feminism told me that all I had to worry about was my own empowerment, it never challenged me to think of others. And that’s something no one could take away from me

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